When we rejuvenate ourselves, we repair that which has been tarnished, bruised or broken within us. As we move through our lives, we can become insensitive to the feelings of others, for lots of different reasons, and so, unwittingly, our behaviors can be the cause of pain. We can sure give a licking and take a licking. Rosh HaShana and Yom Kippur give us powerful times to examine our bruises and broken spots.
Here are the three things you may not know:
1. We all reach in the same direction
Rebbe Nachman of Bratslav, the great-grandson of the Baal Shem Tov, said that human beings reach in three directions: inward to self, outward to other people, and upward to G-d. He taught that the three directions, though, are really only one. When we are connected to our self, we can reach out with integrity to others, and when we reach out to others, we may come to know G-d Who exists in everybody.
2. Find the source of pain
Admitting those behaviors which bring pain to ourselves and others is often the step we must take to rebuild our own self-trust and trust in others. When we can openly voice responsibility for our actions to those we’ve hurt, we let those people share our burden with us, and we give them the opportunity to open their hearts wider to forgive. Most people are willing to forgive us when we take responsibility for our actions.
3. Admin our wrongdoings
When we share our wrongs with another person who can accept us despite our misdeeds and who respects our courage in sharing, we can transform our hurtful behaviors into sacred bonds of trust and understanding, because we have chosen to be vulnerable and honest.
May the coming year be filled with forgiveness, acceptance and love.